Women On The Wall

There are so many people looking for love in many different places. Whether it's church, online, grocery store or night clubs, people are in hot pursuit. The desire to attain love will send you into a frenzy and for some, send them out of character just for a glimmer of it. People will lie, steal, deceive and literally destroy all for their aspirations for love. Some will falsify themselves and become what they believe another person will fall in love with. Isn't it crazy that the hunger for love can make someone believe that they can spend a lifetime pretending?Could you imagine holding up a charade for an entire lifetime thethought of it wears me out!). It is abundantly clear that there are not too many masters of the masquerade, just look at the divorce rate.

One would have to ask what is this love thing anyway, and why should I desire it? The Webster dictionary’s definition of love is a feeling of strong or constant affection for a person. Here is my problem with this definition and the reason why I believe so many people get it wrong. The definition for feelings is an emotional state or reaction. (Watch this) the definition of state is the particular condition that someone or something is in at a specific time. Feelings change continuously; sometimes you don't feel like doing something that you usually enjoy doing. You can have feelings for someone one minute and in the next minute none (no seriously I have seen it happen!). When we go by what we feel we find ourselves in these chaotic relationships because they're built on instability. The Bible says that a double minded man is unstable in all his ways. That means that if you rely on your feelings your mind will be constantly changing, and therefore make you unstable. (Catch This!) The definition of unstable is prone to change,fail, or give way, not stable, when this is your mindset you are headed for disaster!

When we have the proper definition of love we can experience and enjoy it to its fullest. I believe that the Bible definition of love is the correct definition, and is what we should seek after. The Bible says love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast, it is not arrogant or rude, it does not insist on its own way, it is not irritable or resentful, it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth, love bears all things, endures all things. (Wow) this is the love that I desire to give and receive. Let's really look at this, love is patient, the definition of patient is able to accept or tolerate delays, problems or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious. Love is kind, the definition of kind a good or benevolent nature or disposition.

 I love that the Bible description of love, also tells you what love is not. Love does not envy, definition of envy a feeling of discontent or resentful longing aroused by someone else's possession, qualities, or luck. Love does not boast, definition of boast talk with excessive pride and self-satisfaction about one's achievements, possessions, or abilities. Love is not arrogant, the definition of arrogant is having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one's own importance or abilities. Love is not rude, the definition of rude offensively impolite or ill-mannered. Love does not insist on its own way, the definition of insist demand something forcefully, not accepting refusal. Love is not irritable, the definition of irritable having or showing a tendency to be easily annoyed or made angry. Love is not resentful, the definition of resentful is feeling or expression bitterness or indignation at having been treated unfairly. Love does not rejoice at wrongdoing, the definition of wrongdoing is illegal dishonest behavior.

Listen the Bible even tells us what actions love take. Love rejoices with truth and bears all things, the definition of bears is to carry. Love endures all things, the definition of endure is suffer something painful or difficult patiently.

People of God listen before you go out in hot pursuit of something, know what you're truly looking for and how to identify it. Why? Because if you're not clear you will end up with something that you do not want. Love is an awesome thing when you truly find it according to the Bibles description. However let me leave you with this little nugget; it is always better to find this love within before you find it without!

I LOVE YOU WITH THE LOVE OF THE LORD

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